The Madison Shelbie Trust

Ledbury, Herefordshire

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THE MADISON SHELBIE TRUST - BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT SERVICES

This has been set up in May 2015 in memory of Sam’s daughter Madison Shelbie, who was stillborn Christmas 1999.

Since then Sam has been supporting for the last 15 years running the Hereford & Worcester branch of SANDS (Stillbirth & Neo-natal death society) for bereaved parents whose baby or babies have died either before, during or after birth and several years ago qualified as a Grief & Bereavement Counsellor.

This support work has led her to be asked over the years to frequently support lots of families in different circumstances of bereavement and there wasn’t anything in the area that provides all the different support for free. That is why the group was born to ensure that there is a continuous and ongoing support network for people who are bereaved under any circumstances. It has been running since May 2016 and continues to gain new people daily.

The group is run by Sam, her trustees and a very small group of volunteers who without them we would struggle to run due to the increasing demand for our services.

Bereavement and grieving is often a long, lonely and very isolated process. Some people find it easy and are able to share their emotions, thoughts and feelings with family members and other people, although often those people may not want to hear them as it is too upsetting or they want that person to move on.

The grief then can remain raw and painful unless it is allowed to come out. If grief is not dealt with at the time it can manifest into actual physical or mental health problems. Often years later it can come back with a vengeance only to take you back to a place where you don’t want to be or that you were unable to deal with at the time and years on can be even more difficult as people then expect you to be over it.

We provide extensive grief and bereavement services such as one to one support, telephone support, group meetings and counselling for anyone who has suffered a loss to help relieve the emotional distress etc that is often experienced with a bereavement. We provide the service for as long as it is needed. Whether you loss is recent or long ago we are there to support you.

We provide craft sessions for young people to allow them to talk freely about their loss and to meet others going through similar experiences. We make memory items with them and work also with their families.

We also provide a linking service for older people to link up with others who are looking for friendship etc after a loss of a partner and this has proved to be very successful in helping combat the loneliness and isolation that a close death can bring.

We also work closely with the hospitals maternity departments and are set up to provide the Bereavement support at Hereford County hospital and Worcester Royal for bereaved parents and their families in the tragic but all too frequent circumstances when a baby dies. All our trained befrienders who work with them are bereaved parents themselves so really do know what a loss like this can be like and the affect that it has on the parents and the whole family.

We have recently sadly as demand has dictated started a Miscarriage Support Service too

How would this funding have an impact on your community?

The money would be used to provide the necessary resources to run the support groups. We would also use the money to provide us with another mobile phone which enables a befriender to run and emergency support helpline for people who need to talk to someone immediately.

This provides people with the added comfort to know that someone is available at all times to help support them through the emotional anguish and provide comfort to them.

We may also use the money to create bespoke leaflets regarding different losses.

This will benefit people on an ongoing basis in the years to come. It would benefit at least 100 people and more with an increased demand for our services.

"Bereavement and grieving is often a long, lonely and very isolated process. Some people find it easy and are able to share their emotions, thoughts and feelings with family members and other people, although often those people may not want to hear them as it is too upsetting or they want that person to move on.

The grief then can remain raw and painful unless it is allowed to come out. If grief is not dealt with at the time it can manifest into actual physical or mental health problems. Often years later it can come back with a vengeance only to take you back to a place where you don’t want to be or that you were unable to deal with at the time and years on can be even more difficult as people then expect you to be over it. We are there to provide them with a voice for their pain and a friendly ear to listen or just someone to hold their hand and so they know that they are not alone.

Quote from Sam CEO/FOUNDER/CHAIR"

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